Men take care of their mothers into full-time care and give up careers and love

In front of family, the dutiful son never leaves
Once he was a millionaire, why volunteered to give up career and love

For eight years, he gave up his job and gave up on love. He only took care of his mother. The focus of his daily life was to ensure that his mother's life was stable.

If Chen Xiaoqiang's 53-year-old life is bounded by 2004, then he used to be a wealthy millionaire before he was a poor son.

Since 2004, Chen Xiaoqiang’s mother, Li Zongbi, has become aggravated. Chen Xiaoqiang, the youngest son, has since given up his career and began to devote himself to full-time care of his mother. He has not been married for eight years and has not even had a job.

Take care of mother for 8 years alone

Chen Xiaoqiang is the 82-year-old Li Zongbi’s younger son. Chen Xiaoqiang also has one older sister and two older brothers. Because in 2004 I disagreed with my sister's and her brother's practice of sending their mothers to nursing homes, Chen Xiaoqiang began to take care of her mother alone. It was 8 years in a flash.

As the eldest sister, Chen Xiaomei may not have thought at first that the burden of taking care of his mother would fall on one of his younger brothers. In the eyes of the 60-year-old old man, Chen Xiaoqiang was a spearhead who was troubled when he was young, and he was also in jail. In any case, the younger brother could not be connected with Chen Xiaoqiang, who is now dedicated to care for his mother.

He used to be a millionaire

In 1998, Chen Xiaoqiang was 39 years old. In that year, Chen Xiaoqiang worked with his older brother in the longevity Jinpeng shopping mall to run a store that specializes in watches and small household appliances.

Due to well-managed business, by the year 2002, Chen Xiaoqiang’s personal assets had approached 2 million. In this regard, Chen Xiaomei also remembers that at that time, the shop operated by his younger brother was a long-lived watch shop.

The spring breeze of that year made Chen Xiaoqiang rarely return to the main city to meet with his mother. Although Li Zongbi was already suffering from Alzheimer's disease at that time, his condition was not serious and he could also use his own daily life. In Li Zongbi's heart, it was his own little son who could not let go. "When I was young, I didn't make trouble. This made my mother keep thinking about me. Often seeing that I didn't go home in the middle of the night, I sat at home waiting for me until I arrived and she could safely go to bed." Chen Xiaoqiang said.

In 2002, because of a large-scale theft, Chen Xiaoqiang's business went downhill. In this burglary, the watch shop had about 800,000 worth of merchandise stolen. Since then, Chen Xiaoqiang has re-started business again and again, but they have not escaped the fate of failure. When she returned to her mother’s home in 2003, Chen Xiaoqiang’s deposit was only a few thousand dollars.

Career and love have lost

When she moved to his mother's home in 2003, Chen Xiaoqiang began to take care of his mother, but he is still trying to make his career come back.

In April 2004, Li Zongbi was sent to nursing homes by his children. Chen Xiaoqiang was not worried. He went to the nursing home every three to five to visit his mother. As senile dementia grows more severe, Li Zongbi is either awake or does not say a word all day. The old man in the nursing home is far away from her. This makes Chen Xiaoqiang discover that his mother is so lonely.

Li Zongbi lived in the nursing home for one and a half months. During that time, he had gone away once and he was found one night after the other. After that, Chen Xiaoqiang took her back to her home. He told the elder sister and two elder brothers that the mother's life would be taken care of by him for the rest of his life. At this time, Chen Xiaoqiang was not married. The girlfriend who had been with him for several years also chose to leave because he had added a nephew.

Chen Xiaoqiang said that he had chosen two people to be dependent on each other and decided to take care of his mother. To make such a choice, Chen Xiaoqiang told reporters only because he felt that he was indebted to his mother too much.

Change your mother's urine every day

In the past eight years, her mother in bed has become the focus of Chen Xiaoqiang's life. Chen Xiaoqiang told reporters that every night when he can only see his mother when he opens his eyes, he can feel at ease.

He does repeated things every day. Get up at 7:00 in the morning to make breakfast for the mother. The breakfast dishes vary, but milk and eggs are changed every day. After breakfast, he would turn over his mother, wipe the body, and then massage. After everything was done, he had to go out and go to a vegetable market less than 1 km to buy food for lunch. After lunch, Chen Xiaoqiang will take a nap on his sofa bed and turn over for his mother and massage.

What makes Chen Xiaoqiang feel bad is to change his mother's urine or not. Because his mother has been incontinent, he would change his mother's diaper and wash her body every hour during the day. In the evening, Chen Xiaoqiang would take care of his mother once every two hours. This allows him to only guarantee two hours of sleep every night.

Since taking care of his mother, Chen Xiaoqiang has not gone out to look for a job. When a friend recommended him for a job, he also declined. Today, their lives depend on Li Zongbi’s 1800 yuan retirement salary and Chen Xiaoqiang’s monthly minimum living allowance of 300 yuan, plus the other 500 siblings’ monthly living allowance for them.

Memories

Mother was stuck

He sucked it out with his mouth

The home where Chen Xiaoqiang and his mother Li Zongbi live together are located in an old residential building in the Jinghuayuan Community, Tuwan Street, Shapingba District. There is no feeling of homelessness and messiness at home. There are bright black floors, white walls and neat home furnishings, and a sunflower wall sticker attached to the TV wall.

Chen Xiaoqiang said that the mother’s home was renovated in 2008, and all decoration is his own hands.

For various reasons, Chen Xiaoqiang's relationship with his two brothers is not good, but one thing that happened in 2010 made Chen Xiaoqiang, his eldest brother, still very touched. It was shortly before the Spring Festival in 2010. More than 5 o'clock in the morning, Chen Xiaoqiang took her mother up and relieved her mother. As soon as her mother sat on her knees, Chen Xiaoqiang found something wrong and saw her mother's voice in her throat. She trembled, and then began to turn white. "I thought at the time that there must have been a flaw in my mother's throat and she had begun to choke," said Chen Xiaoqiang.

Chen Xiaoqiang hurriedly took his mother back to the bed, immediately leaned over, mouth and mouth to suck out his mouth for the mother. Yesterday, Chen Xiaomei also said that he is more and more at ease with his younger brother.

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Friends walk into his home

It was deeply moved

Zhang Yinbi and Chen Xiaoqiang knew but for 10 days, she could not believe when she had just heard friends talk about Chen Xiaoqiang. At 12 o'clock that evening, under the guidance of a friend, she met the dutiful son in the home of Chen Xiaoqiang.

Yesterday, Zhang Yinbi told reporters that he had been moved when he first entered the home of Chen Xiaoqiang. The family run by a man was able to be organized in such a way that his mother was dressed in clean clothes.

Standing in front of his mother’s bed, Chen Xiaoqiang whispered his mother and kissed his mother’s cheek and told her own friend to come and see her. At this time, Li Zongbi's eyes flowed with crystal tears.

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